My mission is to help you build and strengthen your relationship with your teenage daughter. As a licensed Clinical Social Work Psychotherapist and as a mother I know first hand how trying and tough your daughter’s teen years can be. We all want our daughters to grow up to be happy, healthy and safe adult women.

Let me assure you, I am in your corner. I am here to comfort, encourage and coach you. I will teach you to be more in tune with your daughter. You will learn powerful ways to stay connected, handle conflicts, smooth out upsets and guide your daughter through this important, and sometimes scary, transition into adulthood. Your questions are always appreciated. I will also provide you with some relevant articles, books and resources.

So drop by and spend a few. I hope to stimulate a back and forth conversation that will empower you. You will leave feeling uplifted, motivated, inspired, refueled and ready for the challenge the amazing teen years bring. Raising a healthy, confident teen takes effort, but let me assure you that you can do it, and the rewards will last a lifetime!

Hope you enjoy my video on being a good parent.


  1. As both a therapist and mother of two your blog is a great resource of information and inspiration. Keep up the good work!

    • Thank you for your support Teri. As this blog blossoms with time so may the knowledge needed to nurture our teen girls into healthy, confident individuals.

  2. Read a great article from the Wall Street Journal on The Myth of the Overscheduled Child by Laura Vanderkam.

    There has been so much written on the stress we as parents put on our kids by their having too much activities.

    I always felt a productively busy child makes for a safe happy kid who would be staying out of trouble. Turns out that, participation in organized extracurricular activities correlates with better academic performance and even lower body weight.

    What has your experience been like with your teen daughter. Are they too busy or is it a good thing that there is structure in their lives.

  3. I love Ask Arden!!

  4. Great interview…it’s all about respect

    • Thanks so much. Around August 2011 my new book, What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager! A Hope and Happiness Guide For Moms With Daughters 11-19, will be in the book stores. With 15 chapters packed with advice.
      I can’t wait.
      All the best for the New Year.

    • Thanks dear. This must have slipped through the cracks. Check out my new book, What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager! A Hope and Happiness Guide for Moms with Daughters 11-19, Sourcebooks. Ready for pre-orders Amazon, B & N and Borders, to name a few. It’s official release is August 2nd 2011!!

    • Thanks so much. It all starts at home. A respectful home creates a respectful child….
      My best,

  5. All people young or old need a social skills class called “manners.” This way they learn the rules of society and try to be the best they can be. I am a Business and Social Etiquette Instructor. I am for hire to be a guest speaker for all age groups and boys and men. I have a successful program and have been teaching for many years.

    Oneda Polkl, Image Consultant

    • Good for you Oneda. Sounds like you are doing great stuff and making a difference.
      All my best to you,

  6. please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im so sacred in about to start my period but im so EMMBARSSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i dont even no how to tell my mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Sweetie,
      I know it’s embarassing but Mom has been there as well. Take a breath, step up to Mom and be courageous and share with her. I hope that she is proud and excited for your.
      It’s such a big change and developmental steps for girls to move into woman hood.
      Embrace your body and look forward to all of the amazing changes that are stirring up in you.
      Take good care, rest up and have lots of fun activities.
      Keep me posted,
      Lots of love,

    • Hi Sweetie,
      Aw, darling it’s so natural and normal to be scared and embarrassed. It’s such a major physical and emotional change for you. I hope by now that you are feeling a bit better. Perhaps some of your girl friends have their period. Speak to Mom, you know she gets her period as well. I am sure she felt pretty much like you perhaps when she was around your age.
      Much Blessing and keep me posted,
      Ask Arden

  7. Hi Arden , Im 11 years old . And i was wondering if stomach sick and feeling naucious is a sign of your first period . My breasts are developing and i have some pubic hair . And some underarm hair . And the past couple weeks i have been having some cramps . Write me back🙂 Thanks . Your friend,

    • Hey Deneka,
      Yes, it sounds like your body is working hard to get your period to begin to makes it’s grand entrance. How exciting. Your body is truly amazing and will carry you for the rest of your life.
      With that in mind, take great care of yourself, get enough rest, sleep, eat well, take walks outdoors and pamper yourself with manicures, pedicures and listening to your favorite music.
      Prepare yourself with pads that you can keep in your backpack or pocketbook.
      Keep me posted.
      Much love from’

    • Hi Deneka dear,
      You have e-mailed me a number of times. Hope you are coming along. Perhaps you now have your period. I imagine you do. Drop me a line and let’s see how you are doing. In the meantime, my new book, What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager! A Hope and Happiness Guide for Moms with Daughters, 11-19 is ready for pre-orders on Amazon, B & N and Borders, to name a few. Check it out!
      Blessings from,
      Ask Arden

  8. do know when ill start my period ive had breast ever since i was 10 i have hair down there and i have discharge and know im 12 help me

    • Probably pretty soon sweetie. Just be a bit more patient. Prob within this year. What an exciting times. Your body is amazing and will becomes so much more beautiful.
      Keep me posted,
      Lots of love,

    • Sweetie hang in there. It probably won’t be that much longer. In the meantime, get plenty of rest, have lots of protein, veggies and fruits, whole grains, and lots of fun fun fun. Be active in a team sport, listen to your favorite music and just enjoy being alive!
      Blessings from
      Ask Arden

    • Hi Dear,
      I would say probably within a year, or a bit more. Getting one’s period is a rite of passage, you are growing up. Congratulations and join the club. It has a wonderful membership. Love and take care of you and your body, sweetie.
      My new Book has a few wonderful meditations for Moms. You can certainly read that and that will help you calm and soothe yourself. Listen to your favorite music, dance with your pals, be active outside. Put a big smile on the inside and out and laugh a lot. Laughing is the best therapy I know.
      Blessings from,

  9. I just watched your clip on youtube where you addressed yelling parents. Sadly, I am a yeller as well. I have 2 boys who are constantly picking on one another, wrestling, and fighting. Half the time they are laughing, then it turns to crying; usually right after I tell them to stop or someone is going to get hurt. The only thing that stops them is when they realize I’m yelling and I’ve had enough. I was wondering if you knew of any sites where I could find tips as the one you mentioned on the clip of “little voice” with your fingers, to help me learn some “tricks” to deal with all this boy stress!!! Thank you.

    • Christen, buy my book. Chapter 1 Aerial Parenting will give you over 23 Quick tips and examples, beginning with coming from a place of calm and love. Don’t you just love that Gut instinct, turning up that little voice within. That’s the seat of our good judgment and common sense. Lots of us need to be directed to turn within, and pay attention to ourselves.
      Lots more tip on mediating argument with your sons in my Bullying Chapter, learning to come from a place of Respect.
      No worries that it’s a book for moms and daughters. Lots of my advice can be applied to mothers and dads of sons as well.
      Keep me posted. All the best, Arden

    • My first chapter on Aerial Parenting contains “22” tips that you will find invaluable. Aerial is all about rising above,seeing the bigger picture and coming from a place of love. Buy my new book, What Do You Expect? She’s A Teenager! Even though you have sons, you will use my book as a source of comfort, navigation. One day your boys will be dating and having insight about what girls are all about is where it’s at.
      My best and keep me posted.

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